Nobody else determines your worthiness. Ever.
Let's Rise Together.
I determine my own worthiness. No matter what.
How many times in the past have you made a decision, only to regret it minutes later? Or decided that something was meant for you and then let someone tell you why it actually isn't?
I have experienced this a TON in my past. I would step into my "next-level" of service- offer a new program, for instance- and the red flags started to go up all around me.
Who are you to do this work? Nobody will actually care. You've never done anything like this before so what makes you think it's actually going to work? You should just stick to what you know for sure.
Can you relate?
The Key to Attracting Your Dream Life + Dream Clients? Here it is...
There is an embrace among women, of women. The dawn of a new days is most certainly upon us, and with that new day comes a brighter future for all women. A future where we understand our power, we see the beauty that we create by rising together and we lean in to collaboration, co-creation and drop the judgements that come when we women do not feel worthy.
It is due time for me, and for all of us to step in to our power, out of judgement and pain, and rise together. Can you feel the power, the love, the joy we can create together? When we leave behind the pain of a paradigm that is no longer of service, that has run out of lessons and out of time, we step into a new embodiment of unity, of love and peace.
A note on Self-Worth, Hustling and What it looks like to be truly You.
So next I started really doing the 'mindset work'. And still, I felt stuck, empty and confused. I tried to break through to the core of my insecurities and turn them around. Affirmations, meditations, journalling, I did it all.
But instead of feeling better, I started to feel the constant anxiety of self- judgement. I started thinking I was seriously broken. Even indications of outer-success in my business didn't make it go away. It was an internal bleed- a slow, steady stream of fear, anxiety and not-enoughness that was flowing through me.
You can have all the success in the world, but if you don't feel good, it's meaningless. I can tell you this firsthand. And I can assure you that once you become aware of the judgements you're holding onto, they can't stick without becoming insanely uncomfortable.
For you to have true outward success that feels fulfilling, abundant and loving, you have to step away from the judgement and live from a place of self-love, confidence and purpose.
What I Know For Sure.
Yesterday something changed for me, and I could finally understand where the bitterness was coming from, and why I was creating this in myself.
I’ve always instinctively known that I don’t operate the way that many people do. With almost no “energy” exerted, I start to feel depleted very quickly when I’m around people, contributing to a project, working in the traditional sense. It’s all insanely draining. And I was mad at myself, because this made absolutely no sense. I must just be a lazy piece of shit with no drive or real aspirations.
Shooting Star. A note on Personal Power, Unity and Separation, and White Supremacy.
Somehow it seems like lifetimes since I've last written to you, but I know it hasn't really been but a couple weeks.
I feel like I stepped into a super accelerator and jumped out on the other side as an entirely different person. It's nice to reinvent ourselves on occasion. But this time, for me, it wasn't a physical reinvention, or a rock-bottom reinvention or anything like that.
It was being in the right place at the right time and receiving the exact piece of information I needed at that time.
The darkness in the light
I have been working with Flower spirits a lot recently, and today I received a beautiful from the Shooting Star. It was a magnificent reminder to me personally that I was not born on this Earth to be a bystander, I am here for a Divine Purpose and it is time to live that purpose.
The energy of the Shooting Start also blessed me with the words to put onto what I have been feeling about the events unfolding around America, specifically Charlottesville, for a while now.
The message I received from the Shooting Star and the words following are, of course, connected to a deeper Truth: that we are ALL interconnected and we are all here to be beacons of light. In whatever unique way we were meant to do so. Now is the time to claim your Power, to stand for your Truth.
We have to get real with ourselves at some point. To stop coddling the ego and go into the darkness. There's a quote of sorts that I used to hear thrown around that says something to the tone of "darkness cannot exist where there is light".
It's not about making yourself wrong for the darkness, it's about shining in the light. Seeing it for what it is. Because once you can see it for what it is, it cannot exist unless you consciously choose to let it.
So this is what I chose to finally do. Shine the light in. Acknowledge the darkness.
The Essence of Wealth
I've awakened to the possibility that there might be more than what this condition provides. I've been awake to it for a while. But I didn't grasp it fully until now (and I probably still don't, quite honestly.) This week I have been given a new perspective on what this means for me. Through conversations that suddenly trigger a memory- an ancient memory not of this lifetime, one that has no words, just feelings. To the very conscious feeling that my 'things' actually own me, not the other way around.
But my biggest realization came to me in my dream last night.
It came from observing myself in a setting in which I was trying to play a role that was built into a system but I wasn't trying to play in that system.
5 things you do for your brand that don't really matter.
What is wealth? What is the essence of wealth and abundance?
Now before you think I've gone all money coach on you here, let me tell you that this isn't about money at all. In fact, wealth isn't really about money. Money can be a result of wealth, it is a tangible indicator of wealth- but not the only one. And money doesn't always indicate wealth. They do not directly correlate, and that's something I think we confuse at times.
Before I tell you what I believe is the essence of wealth, and what it truly takes to experience wealth, I invite you to ask yourself, what is wealth?
We're poisoning the well.
I've taken a deep dive into the brand I'm putting into the world through kirstiedempsey.com and all of its platforms. While it's had many evolutions, there was always something below the surface that I was trying to find but I couldn't quite grasp.
And I've finally found it. It's what I like to refer to as an alchemical expression. It's the beating heart of the brand, the energetic signature and bridge between what is tangible and what is not. What is said and what's felt.
Getting to the heart of the matter.
When are we going to wake up and realize that selling the pain is perpetuating the pain? Selling the pain gives us permission to live in the pain. We’re in a constant cycle of working through pain, working through challenges.. working through.
What if we just gave ourselves permission to be where we are without labelling it as painful, or needing fixed or changed? What if as soon as we put a name to what was causing us to be less joyful (because joy and love is our natural state) we just decided to move through that feeling and back into joy? What if we took the focus off of the less-than, back to the more-than and let that be enough to move us through?
Hi, I'm Kirstie, and I'm a materialist.
All this noise we experience is distracting. We forget about what really matters, we cling to something that may or may not even serve us. I told you last week about my battle with materialism. (Ok, it's not really a battle, but really.) Materialism is a distraction. We need this to get there. Our feelings can act as a distraction if we don't actually feel them in a healthy way.
Sacred Promises- And my Promise to you.
This past Sunday I attended an event in West Hollywood for a very famous spiritual author. Upon arriving, I pulled up to the building to see that the valet lot was full. The only parking available for the "intimate" event was full. Well now where the F do I park?! LA isn't exactly known for having abundant parking spots.
So I'm fuming. I'm here to be all connected and spiritual, but instead I'm pissed because all these overly made-up women carrying their designer bags have taken up all the spots with their Range Rovers and Porsches. Who were they to be at this event?! They probably aren't even as spiritual as I am. How could they be? They're more concerned with looking good and flaunting their "things" than actually "being" in a place of spiritual wholeness.
And in that thought, as I parked in a 2 hour street parking spot that I just KNEW I was going to get a ticket for parking in (I didn't), I had to stop and laugh at myself.
no more boxes.
We all came into this lifetime having made a sacred promise.
I believe that each of us came to Earth with a divine purpose, a promise we made to carry out our mission in this lifetime. You may or may not be with me here, and that's ok. But I know that since you're here, you most certainly do believe you have a purpose on this planet.
I'm so tired of being told how to feel.
Last week, I co-hosted my first major event, and I have to tell you, it really forced me to reflect how I want to move my business forward. My intention for the event was solely to hold space for these women to heal and grow in their highest and best direction. I stepped back and allowed source to lead the way to deliver exactly what they needed. And my God was it powerful. I finally understood what it meant to be energized by your work.
Which leads me to what has been on my mind lately- when we jump into the online coaching world, we are constantly looking for a box to fit ourselves nicely into.
Open at your own pace (please).
It seems that lately we are being told "how to feel" a lot. If we're too positive, we're not seeing what's happening in the world. If we're too angsty, we're not leading by an example of positivity. Really, we can't win.
Or can we?
I think it's time to reframe how we view our emotions. Instead of being ashamed for being sad, let's embrace the sadness. Or not. Because ultimately, they are YOUR emotions. How you experience them, how you express them or release them is your decision.
The missing piece from your style IS...
It started about a year ago. I kept feeling something tugging away at my heart. Softly whispering "there's more for you". Well I know that, I thought, I'm just starting a business, obviously there's more coming my way as this thing grows.
But it wasn't that. It wasn't the tangible elements of beginning a business. It had nothing to do with that. It was my soul calling.
Do you love yourself unconditionally?
There's one key ingredient to style that we often neglect. It has nothing to do with fashion, with the fabric of your clothing or where you shop. This one is all about YOU.
As I was making a list of literally everything that came to my mind... always have my nails done, get bi-weekly massages, say the things I really want to say, tell people how transformational the work I do really is, allow myself to buy new workout clothes, talk to the women who inspire me the most, stop downplaying my ideas, go to the beach whenever the f*ck I feel like it... it really hit me that literally nobody in this entire beautiful world is stopping me from doing any one of those things but myself.